Turns out Friends isn’t only one of the best comedies to hit TV, but the lyrics of the theme song are also very relatable.
It goes like this…
“So, no-one told your life was going to be this way, your job’s a joke your love life’s DOA. It’s like you’re always stuck in second gear. When it hasn’t been your day, your week, your month or even your year”.
You better believe I know the lyrics off by heart—one of the few things I never need to Google.
Not to be a downer or anything but get ready for some home truths. If your degree was particularly gruelling then a break is much needed, in fact, I’d recommend it. But there comes a time you’re itching to do something new, something grown up like I don’t know, get a job? And that’s fine but you should also know that unemployment after graduation is as common as a cold in winter. Most people go through it and that makes it normal.
All around you might find people gunning for the same opportunities and that competitive reality can be a big and bitter pill to swallow. I mean, it’s the catch 22—to get the experience you need experience. What a conundrum. University prepares you to an extent, but you’ll find the real world is bigger and more savage when it comes to employment.
Instead of going round and round and getting a headache in the process—how do you break the cycle? The answer might be to get out of the race at least for a little while.
If you know the story of the tortoise and the hare, you’ll know that speeding through things isn’t always the best plan of action. Instead, being slow and steady can lead to triumph!
We all do it—comparison and competition are very real and can destroy your productivity and mental health. So how can you guard against it? Well, it’s takes a constant reminder not to compare yourself if things aren’t happening right now. This is something I try to do and when I catch myself slipping, I check myself before I wreck myself. I think about all the positives I have going on, what I’ve accomplished and that reassures me and boosts my confidence.
This is another thing, self-belief is a major key here—how do you expect people to believe in if you don’t believe in yourself? That right there is enough to wake up and think oh yes! I’ve got to change.
So, rather than forcing yourself to be ready, find a way to be sure of what you want because uncertainty is a scent that goes on for miles.