An interesting discussion stemmed from Twitter recently centered on the F word. The F word is such a powerful statement, one that has been associated with many connotations, not all positive, I’ll add, but it is a word that turns heads. Interestingly, Kim Kardashian managed to do just that when she posted a nude selfie (censored), all in the name of feminism. Kim explained she wanted to encourage women to confidently love their bodies: “I am empowered by my body. I am empowered by my sexuality. I am empowered by feeling comfortable in my skin. I am empowered by showing the world my flaws, and not being afraid of what anyone is going to say about me, and I hope that through this platform I have been given, I can encourage the same empowerment for girls and women all over the world.” The caption ended with her saying, “I am a mother. I am a wife, a sister, a daughter, an entrepreneur and I am allowed to be sexy.”
Some people praised Kim and others criticised. Chloe Grace Moretz stated, “I truly hope you realise how important setting goals are for young women, teaching them that they have more to offer than-” Let’s be real now, there’s no denying that Kim has an amazing body most women would kill for, but I’m going to be honest about this. Her justification about empowering women is somewhat laughable to me on the count that she is fronting behind this notion that she is all for feminism. I mean, she has a stunning figure, but call it for what it is, don’t make up excuses. Kim gets a lot of fame because of her beauty, and without these constant ‘break the internet’ photos, she would lose millions. If a woman wants to be naked to feel empowered then sweet, but personally, this was never the case.
Don’t get me wrong, I admire, and even become intrigued when I see women fearlessly show off their bodies, loving every flaw God blessed them with, though I feel Kim’s explanation was bogus just because of the person she portrays to be. Nevertheless, as I’ve always said, you don’t need to agree with someone’s view, just accept it. From this, Ayesha Curry’s name got dragged into the whole heated debate over Kim’s photo. Twitter revived Ayesha Curry’s 2015 “classy over trendy” tweet and used it to compare the two women in a battle of ‘bad girl’ vs. ‘good girl’.
Curry, a lifestyle blogger, wife of NBA MVP player Stephen Curry and mother of two, became the symbol for the type of “lady-in-the-streets purity”, one who reserves her freakiness for her man. To add to this, “she cooks, upholds the sanctity of her marriage at all costs, and maintains decency in an internet world of indecency”.
In her 2015 tweet she stated: “Everyone’s barely wearing clothes these days huh? Not my style. I like to keep the good stuff covered up for the one who matters.” She later added, “Just looking at the latest fashion trends. I’ll take classy over trendy any day of the week.”
Of course, there were mixed feelings as some argued that women have the right to dress in any fashion, and shouldn’t be done with the intention of pleasing men.
“You’re tearing women down by saying that certain types of dress makes them not ‘classy’.”
Bringing the two women to the stand, raised my own question as to whether nakedness is female empowerment?
It’s no secret that sexuality is majorly important today. Still, I don’t think that only our body empowers us – being educated empowers you, enlightening others on issues considered taboo empowers you and showing off your talents to the world is also empowering. It seemed that if you’re not following Kardashian then you’re immediately written off as not being sexy. Yet, this is complete nonsense. Surely, everyone’s idea of sexy is different. I can think of several sex symbols in the past that did not appeal to me that may appeal to others.
“I love how ‘a Kim K’ or ‘an Ayesha Curry’ is a thing now. Y’all have made these women into archetypes but don’t know what they do privately”
Recently, the topic of promiscuity has been trending. Females everywhere are vocalising sexual freedom but the “Ayesha Curry effect has become a threat to this agenda”. She is the type of model female that some men would want to bring home to their mama.
“There’s absolutely no reason to hate Ayesha Curry other than jealousy that men like & want women to be like her”
Ayesha Curry effect has become a threat to this agenda”. She is the type of model female that some men would want to bring home to their mama.”
Personally, I feel the whole matter was bigger than just nude selfies and dressing modestly. I feel by introducing the ‘bad girl’ vs. ‘good girl’ notion, we contribute to the culture of rape and slut shaming. “Women are not sexual objects and a Kim Kardashian can coexist with an Ayesha Curry”. Of course, some famous women have a hyper-sexualised addition to media exposure and they become role models for sexism and this has its consequences on many young men and women and the way they see their bodies but women have the right to portray themselves in any way they please.
Ultimately, my last thought on this is, dress how you’d like to be addressed because funnily enough, in this day and age, the way you dress says a lot about you. If you want to show off what your mama gave you, then go for it. You know the saying, “if you’ve got it, flaunt it”. At the same time, if you feel more comfortable and liberated covering up your goods, then hey, that’s brilliant too just don’t tear down other women for not sharing your beliefs. Basically, “In a world full of Kardashians and Currys, be the F you want. archetypes but don’t know what they do privately” (@le_debut)
women to be like her” (@NawRob)